Thursday, July 03, 2008

July 3, 2008

I have been a bit quiet lately. There has just been so much going on! Stuff I will try to blog about soon, but today is a special day. Today my ex got remarried to a wonderful lady. I have told her that I couldn't have picked a better step mom for my kids. She has said she will take care of them and keep communication open with me. We have a very special relationship and now that seems to have become more special.

I know it may seem weird to many but I think this is the best case scenario for us and I actually love it. I am very happy that I did reach out to her and start the friendship because it really has given so much back to me. She is amazing with my children. Us having a friendship has really helped my children too. K is far less dramatic and stressed over the divorce and the new people her parents' life's.

As hard as it was at first to see him so happy with someone else and to see someone else just full to bursting with love for him, I put that aside for my kids and I have been surprised that I am reaping some many benefits from it as well.

Anyway, I just wanted to wish them the best and hope many, many years of happiness for them.

Will I still hold some resentment over his "freedom" and ability to move on so quickly, and the fact he lives so far away and so many things? Yes I might but I feel it is normal to feel that way. I feel that way less often than I once did and now it is only when something major happens and I just really need that extra parent to be there. But I am getting through it and I know that my kids respect me for it. They know who is here everyday and that means a lot to me.

In fact today I asked my daughter to be strong, after all she is my daughter. She said I know, we are strong. and I just grinned and thought, yes ma'am we are.


Charlene said...

Wow, I think it's great that you have such a relationship with her. I know at times it must be hard. But you are so much stronger than you think you are!

I remember how you felt at the beginning of all this (the separation) and you were strong then too, you just didn't realize it!

I'm glad K is doing better with things! And I'm glad you have someone in your life too, perhaps that's why it's easier to move on, you know?

Karen said...

If only more divorced parents were as gracious as you.... Your children will cherish this for the rest of their lives - even if they don't tell you - you've smoothed out the roughest transition for them and you've done it with grace, dignity and overwhelming kindness.

shuttle mom said...

I wish my daughter and her ex could be so civil. Both remarried (he's already divorced again) but they keep taking jabs at each other. At least now they do behave in front of the kids.