Sunday, January 28, 2007

Actions speak louder than words

I have always subscribed to this thinking. Not just in dating but in all relationships. My family, my friends and with boyfriends, it doesn't matter. If someone wants to be in a relationship with you, they will show you through their actions. However, I am going to speak of this in the dating sense of it....

I often think of this book. It is called, "He's just not that into you: The no-excuses truth to understanding guys." by Greg Berherndt and Liz Tuccillo. I read it long before I was back in the "dating game." But, it was at a point I knew that I was going to end it and I was "getting ready" to enter that dating world again.

Basically what I got from the book is if someone wants to have a relationship with you, they are going to make the effort. If they want to talk to you, they will call, email you and just in general let you know they are thinking of you. They are never too busy. Well call just for a few minutes to say "Hi." and then basically everything I said in this blog entry right..... HERE!

Recently, I was discussing guys with Esmerelda over at Soon to be just me. I told her it sounds like "He's just not that into you." Which first of all makes him an idiot and he needs to be hit with a clue x 4. Because she does seem awesome, cool and fun! Wish I could go out and have a drink with her. She is my long lost sister or at least we were made from the same mold. Either way, I think she deserves to find someone (when the time is right) that is truly into her and gets her! But, I wish her all the fun in the search.

My question is this, what if someone is showing you all these signs that they are into you, yet still keeping you at arms length with their words? What do you believe? I know, it does seem a bit confusing huh?!

My only advise is to sit back and enjoy it, be patient and hope that one way or the other the actions and words will soon match.


Esmerelda said...

Today is such an emotional day for me. With Dragginlady's father's news, and being so spent from my first workout, and making it through my first weekend without kids and without that idiot....this is what I really needed. I wasn't kidding when I said I can't believe he's not. I'm so awesome! :-)

Esmerelda said...

oh, and I forgot to thank you sista'!

TxGambit said...

Oh sweetie, this is your first weekend without the kids. Wow! That is the hardest weekend. It should be about over, right? Hang in there.

Sending more thoughts and prayers to Dragginlady as well.

Your Welcome, sista. You said it in your blog, baby steps and hold hands. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}