Friday, February 09, 2007

Center of Attention

Due to the Questions/Answers that Esmeralda posted, there has been a small discussion around women being the center of attention. So over the last few days I have been thinking about it.

Now, I’m not typically the center of attention type. I don’t like a fuss made over me. I don’t like to be in the spotlight. I mean there are times when this is okay, like when I finish school. I want to be the center of attention with my family because this has been such a large chunk of my time so hey let’s celebrate it! But, like I said, I really don’t like the spotlight.

But, I do like to be made to feel special and important by the man in my life. So yeah in a way I want this person to make me the center of his attentions and not because I necessarily want it or ask for it or expect it but because he wants to give it to me. Wants to let me know I’m just that important or special. And, how?….. Well pretty much everything I posted here but I will explain a bit more.

I want to be the center of attention in a much more passive way, than “the spotlight is on me.” So say we are out with friends, maybe in honor of a friend’s birthday or something that I wouldn’t be the center of attention for. However, my guy would maybe hold my hand and just give it a little squeeze to let me know we are “connected” in a way. Almost like saying “Hi. I’m here, thinking about you.” Or maybe he is across the room talking to other people, I’m talking to people, he catches my eye and just smiles…. Again saying “Thinking about you. Cant’ wait until we are on the same side of the room.”

And I’m not expecting someone to remember everything about me, but if he remembers little special things about me, like what I like to drink or if I mention a book, song, movie, TV show that I like…. Maybe he makes reference of it or if the song is on the radio, he turns it up just a tiny bit before I even realize it’s on. He would just show me that he was not just hearing me but really listening.

So basically I am saying that I want to be the center of his attention but not the world’s. And, just in small but meaningful ways that make me smile when nobody is around. It keeps those butterflies dancing around my stomach at the thought of seeing him.

And, really I think that is what most ladies want. Right ladies?

Edit: I wanted to add that if a man did all this for me, he would be repaid more than he could ever imagine. It is a give and take situation.


Esmerelda said...

OH GIRRRRL! That is what I meant. I don't want the WORLD to focus on me. I'd have gone to Hollywood for that....but when I'm with someone, I let them know they are special and I expect reciprocation...I don't think that's too much to ask.

TxGambit said...

I knew that is what you meant!!!! :) We girls are pretty simple, guys just think we are complex.

trappedintime said...

In the beginning is sounds all simple, but it's not. It's so complex even Dr. Spock couldn't figure it out (either spock). Then before long, intead of that glance across the room, we (men) begin to look like deer caught in headlights. "WHAT? What'd I do?"

TxGambit said...


Or is that you DID do something and so you just feel guilty about it when we look at you from across the room? Ummm, back to chicken or the egg......

trappedintime said...

Marriage SUX!

Can you tell the both of us were married for a while? lol

TxGambit said...

LOL.... I really hope all marriages aren't like that. If they are, nobody is happy and they are all just faking it.

I prefer to be optimstic. But yeah marriage sux!!!!!

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